Why You're Not Reaching Your Goal - Uncovering the Key Factors for Success

First off, let’s set the record straight…goals are meant to be tough. A true goal isn’t something you can simply set yourself and go and complete… that’s just a task. A goal is something to work towards, something that is going to happen in the future and something you might not have figured out yet … and that’s ok. There seems to be a common misconception that you can simply set your goal and go and take action and achieve it, but this approach and way of thinking 99% of the time will lead to frustration, disappointment, a feeling of unworthiness and abandonment of your goal. Sound familiar?

Before we dive into the detail, let me introduce myself. I’m Alicia, founder of LEAF by Moments, a place where you can learn how to evolve your mindset, take action to transform your life and maintain your progress. I’ve spent the last 11 years as a senior leader and professional coach for a large UK company, leading teams, coaching and developing people to their fullest potential and I’m thrilled to have the opportunity now to support people through my own community here.

LEAF is all about helping you learn valuable and transferable mindset techniques, knowledge and skills so that you can apply these concepts to all areas of your life, whether you are actively working with us or not. The best part about LEAF is the growing community of members, an ever growing library of resources and endless support to help you on your journey.

Building a Strong Foundation: The Power of Mindset

This is the most important step in your whole journey. Make sure to take your time and never overlook this step if you are aiming to set a new goal. If you have a goal you are already working towards you should also spend some time in this section.

Your mindset is the foundation upon which your goals are built. It's the lens through which you view the world, and it has a profound impact on your ability to achieve your aspirations. A growth mindset is essential for unlocking your potential and embracing the challenges that come with pursuing your goals, it is this mindset that allows you to see challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. With a growth mindset, you believe that with effort, perseverance, and dedication, you can improve and achieve remarkable things.

In the 11 years I’ve spent coaching and developing people I can honestly say without a shadow of a doubt that your mindset will be the number one factor in whether you succeed or fail and this is why I spend so much time focused on mindset work with the people I am coaching.

So many people tackle a new goal without doing any of the work on their mindset first. They head straight into the action stage, maybe they’ve done a little planning but nearly always miss the most important step. This oversight often results in people trying to tackle their goals with what’s called a fixed mindset. This can limit your progress and when things start to get tough it can make you to believe that your abilities are set in stone and that you're either "good" or "bad" at certain things.

To cultivate an open, growth mindset, start by embracing failures and setbacks as learning experiences. Instead of viewing them as evidence of your limitations, see them as opportunities to gain valuable insights and wisdom. Celebrate the effort you put in, regardless of the outcome, and recognise that every step forward is progress.

Challenge negative self-talk and limiting beliefs that may hinder your progress. Replace them with positive affirmations and empowering thoughts that support your growth and potential. Surround yourself with positivity and seek inspiration from others who have overcome obstacles to achieve their goals. As you strengthen your mindset, you'll find it easier to overcome obstacles and stay focused on your goals. When faced with challenges, remind yourself that setbacks are temporary and that each one brings you closer to success. Stay committed to your vision and trust in your abilities to navigate any roadblocks that arise.

Additionally, mindfulness and self-awareness play crucial roles in building a strong foundation. Take time to reflect on your thoughts, emotions, and reactions to various situations. This self-awareness will help you identify and address any negative thought patterns or self-doubts that may be holding you back.

Remember, your mindset is not fixed, and you have the power to shape it to support your aspirations. With a growth mindset, you'll unlock your potential, embrace challenges, and see your goals through to fruition.

The Importance of Planning for Goal Success

Ah, the thrill of setting a new goal. The excitement of envisioning the future and the anticipation of achieving something great can be intoxicating. But hold on, before you dive headfirst into action, let's talk about the crucial step that often gets overlooked – planning.

Why is planning so essential for achieving your goals? Well, think of it as the blueprint for your journey. Just like a skilled architect meticulously plans every detail of a building, a well-crafted plan is the foundation of your goal's success. It gives you direction, keeps you focused, and helps you navigate through obstacles that may come your way.

It’s here where so many people stumble – jumping straight into action without a plan, like setting sail without charting your course. Without a roadmap, you may find yourself drifting aimlessly, wasting precious time, and getting frustrated when you don't see progress (we’ve all been there!)

So, let's get down to business. How do you create an effective goal-setting plan? Start by defining your goal with crystal clarity.

🌿 Break it down into smaller, achievable milestones.

🌿 Identify the specific actions you need to take to reach each milestone.

🌿 Set deadlines and create a timeline for completion.

Remember, a well-thought-out plan provides structure and organization, making it easier to measure your progress and make necessary adjustments along the way. Consider this… if I asked someone off the street to run a marathon next week with no prior training, well, that would be rather ridiculous. But does that mean they’re incapable of running a marathon? Absolutely not. With the right training plan, enough time, dedication and structure it becomes not only possible but almost guaranteed that they will become capable enough to meet their goal.

It’s also worthwhile noting here that not everyone will need the same plan, we all have different experience, skills, bodies and minds and therefore while the general plan will be similar it will not be the same. It’s important to remember this no matter what goal you are working towards. So, before you charge ahead, take a moment to craft your plan.

Acquiring Skills

As you embark on your journey towards your goals, you'll quickly realize that certain skills are essential for success. Identifying and honing these skills can make all the difference between progress and stagnation.

Take a moment to reflect on your goal. What are the specific skills required to achieve it? It could be anything from time management and communication to problem-solving or mastering emotions. Recognising the skills you need to develop will be the first step towards developing them.

So, how to go about acquiring these necessary skills? First and foremost, remember the mindset work you have undergone when setting your goal. Embracing a growth mindset will allow you to believe your abilities can be developed (remember the marathon example!). This mindset empowers you to face challenges, learn from failures, and continually improve.

Next, seek opportunities for growth and learning. Attend workshops, courses, or webinars that focus on the skills you need. Read books, listen to podcasts, and follow other successful people who have already achieved what you’re aiming for. Surround yourself as much as possible with like-minded individuals who inspire you to grow.

Remember, learning is a lifelong journey, and each skill you acquire becomes a valuable tool that can be used again and again. Embrace the process of acquiring new skills, and watch how they elevate your performance and propel you towards your aspirations.

Patience and Persistence: Giving Your Goals the Time They Deserve

Yes I know, we want to get things done now! It's natural to want immediate results, but true success often requires time and perseverance. Understand that achieving significant milestones takes dedication and commitment to your vision, so take a moment to reflect on how far you’ve already come, reset, and take considered action.

One of the most common mistakes people make is giving up too soon. When faced with challenges or setbacks, it's easy to feel discouraged and consider abandoning your goals altogether. This is one of the hardest parts of reaching a goal and you’ll often need a helping hand here from someone else to help you see clearly. When you feel like giving up it can also mean that you’re feeling stuck, unclear and cannot seem to work out what the problem is. Maybe the goal is just too unrealistic? Not a chance. You can achieve anything, but you also need to remember that setbacks are a normal part of any journey, and they offer valuable opportunities for growth.

You need to let go of the pressure for immediate perfection. Embrace the process and trust that every effort contributes to your eventual success. When faced with setbacks, remind yourself of the "why" behind your goals—the deep-rooted reasons that ignite your passion and drive. Let your "why" fuel your determination and give you the strength to push through challenges.

Top tip - Stay motivated by visualising the future you're working towards. Create a vision board or write a detailed description of your desired outcome. Seeing your dreams come to life on paper can reignite your enthusiasm and rekindle your commitment to the journey.

Along the way, remember that it's okay to seek support. Surround yourself with a supportive community, friends, or mentors who encourage and uplift you during challenging times. Having a network that believes in your potential can make a significant difference in your resilience and perseverance, and if you don’t feel like you have those people in your life remember you have LEAF! (Join our free community here).

As you embark on your goal-setting journey, remember that achieving meaningful goals requires more than sheer determination. By understanding the importance of planning, acquiring necessary skills, exercising patience, and nurturing a powerful mindset, you can set yourself up for success. At LEAF by Moments, we're committed to providing you with the knowledge, resources, and support to unlock your full potential and reach your goals. Join our vibrant community and discover the transformative power of mindset and action.

Catch you in the next post,


Alicia Giles

Founder of Leaf by Moments

I've spent 11 years coaching and developing people to not only reach but also exceed their goals, master their mindset and transform their lives, I've created LEAF to continue this work so you can learn transferable skills to help you Learn, Evolve, Apply & Flourish as you transform your life.

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